“For christ sakes, I remember when you used to be a comedian.” That’s not a line from Edward Albee’s Who’s Afraid of Virginia Woolf? That’s self-professed “alcoholic, stand up comic, actor” Tom Arnold, Barr’s now-estranged ex, in an online fight with his former betrothed. The two had a very messy, very public divorce in 1994 after Barr alleged that Arnold “hit me, struck me, has thrown objects at me, pinched me and verbally abused me.”
Hosting Saturday Night Live in 1994, Barr insulted the size of a particular part of Arnold’s anatomy during her opening monologue, to which he later retorted, “A 747 looks small when it lands in the Grand Canyon.” (Barr also famously quipped, “I’m not upset about my divorce [to Arnold]. I’m only upset I’m not a widow.”) In 1996, Arnold also awkwardly insulted Barr while presenting at the Golden Globe Awards, much to co-presenter Teri Hatcher’s visible discomfort.
Even today, their relationship remains messy and very public. In a 2018 review of the Roseanne revival published in The Hollywood Reporter, Arnold casually called Barr a “Trump-loving troll” and described how she allegedly treated him during the divorce. Infractions included firing him from Roseanne, plus “destroying the trophy case in my office, canceling my credit cards, and promising I’d never work in show business again.”