On Monday night (Nov.27), I went to a concert. During the show the performer brought us up on stage, which we were excited about and thought was fun. He then invited us backstage, which again, we thought was fun.
Once there, one of his buddies offered us drinks. I know the number one rule is to not accept drinks from strangers, but I was in a group and was with someone whose music I have listened to for years and so for some reason trusted, which I shouldn’t have. My friend and I were #roofied.
From here on my memory is a little hazy, and some of this is what my friends told me and from looking back at my phone the next day. Backstage, the performer was putting his hand down my pants and grabbing me. The other girls in the room said that I just seemed drunk, but that I seemed consensual (because I WAS DRUGGED) so they didn’t intervene.
He then invited us onto his tour bus. This is where I got separated from my friend, who was also drugged. Speaking to her the next day, she says she has a few vivid memories but other than that, she was blacked out for most of the night.
After losing her, some other girlfriends and I ended up on the performer’s tour bus but somehow, luckily, we didn’t stay there long. When I left the tour bus, I went to McDonald’s with some of my good friends. The performer and one of his people began texting me and then came to McDonald’s and tried to get me back onto the tour bus.
In those texts, my responses were extremely willing and responsive because I was under the influence of a drug. So, at this point, I was so out of it I would have gone. However my friends noticed I was off and intervened. I feel VERY lucky that my friends knew the difference between drunk and drugged.
I think this is a pattern with the performer and his crew, because since Monday I have heard of other girls that think they were also drugged at his other shows. Also I’ve since seen a bunch of similar allegations against him online. In the first 48 hours after, I think I was still in denial of the whole thing and so didn’t go get tested for drugs in my system. Because of this, there is nothing I can do in terms of legal justice. The cop I spoke to said he believed me, but that there’s no legal action to take as I don’t have any real evidence other than my word.
I was sexually assaulted but not raped, thanks to the intervention of my friends. However, some girls at his other shows may not be so lucky. I feel so frustrated and sickened by the idea of him or any man doing this to other girls, I wanted to try to warn other young women. You don’t think this is going to happen to you until it does. So PLEASE share this post and help spread my story to warn other young women who are planning on going to this performer’s show, and any performer’s show. Don’t trust people simply because they’re in the public eye.